Love, Marriage and the Engine Light of God

 

(Genesis 2:24 - In marriage, there is a small loss of self to the man and woman…”and they shall become one flesh…” again in Matthew 19:5 it says, “and they shall become one flesh.”  In God’s eyes, His Church is a collective of individuals. You are one. Just is the same in marriage. God and the world will now see 2 individuals as a whole. A unit. A family. One bond. One household. Together. Where one is, so shall the other be also. At the side of each other for love, support and furtherment of God and each other. No one is “better” than the other. Remember: roles, responsibilities, play to your strengths, be there for each other in the areas of weaknesses; you are a team now; work together; work live play grow learn together; help each other; don’t put each other down and pull each other down.

This is your other half; the counterpart; and wild it is not biblical, some may refer to this great bond as the yin to your yang; the give to your take; the up to your down; the in to your out; it is called by many names but at the end of the day, biblically, in the Creator’s eyes, it is a union 2 into 1 that starts on the spiritual level; NOT the physical level as the secular wayward world would have you believe

Without a mental, spiritual connection to each other, the physical connection will soon grow weak and fall away because it is only the biproduct of the spiritual connection; it is NOT the actual engine that powers the motion. The spiritual connection is the engine. This moves the car. Without the engine, the car is just a big hunk of metal, rubber and glass; pretty to look at; but doesn’t go anywhere or do anything. You must have that clean clear spiritual connection with God First; then the bond between each other can blossom. 

Spiritual

Now you’re cooking! You’ve got fuel, that’s the Holy Spirit – you’ve got a clean strong engine with plenty of horsepower to get you on your way fast – that’s the spiritual mutual connection and bond 

Mental

– and you’ve got nice clean brand new tires, shiny paint job, top up or top down, your choice but either way, you’ve got the mental connection and you understand your purpose and where you’re going

Emotional

now that GPS navigation is up on and running and ready to take you as far as your hearts and minds can dream to travel and go together 

Physical

and lastly, yes, you’ve got it all waxed, polished, no dents, no scratches, air freshener, radio on and ready to soak up the miles together, that’s your physical! Get that vehicle on the road baby and let’s enjoy the ride!

Marriage is more than just a material item like a ring or trinket of jewelry. It is more than just an idea on paper for tax breaks and insurance applications or loan applications. It is more than just an emergency contact for work or school and PTA meetings

It is your bond of promise to love, uphold, sharpen, correct, steer clear of danger; call on your spiritual Triple-A when you need to aka GOD and rejoice with Him when you don’t! God is more than just your spiritual On-Star, He is actually the pilot! 

GOD - You’re just holding the steering wheel! GOD is the cruise control, the service engine light, the low fuel or battery indicator…GOD tells you when you need to pull over and rest. Go in for service maintenance and tune ups…tells you when it’s time to get new tires or oil changes…you get the point. You are NOT alone. This is the road of life. And God’s got you covered. He is the greatest road-side service/insurance you could ever have. Yes, there’s going to be bumps in the road, swerves in the high curves and hazards in the low valleys we can’t see… there will be accidents along the way…you will see road kill, markings and signs of others that have gone by the wayside before you, but know this.

As long as you are still moving and the wheels are turning; it’s not over. Your journey is still going. And yes, while this may be about marriage and the trinity bond between God, man, woman – mind body spirit; yes, single people, (like me) this all applies to you, too. 1 Corinthians 7-9 reminds us we’re not on the road of life alone; all the same biblical principles apply to us as well. Oh Yes. So, remember…)

3 become 1

The bodies join as one church – one mind – one energy. Together, they are fulfilling. Enriching. Complimentary. It is NOT loss – it is gain. You + them = US. True, but remember, you times Him times your spouse = ONE. How? Look again. 1 x 1 x 1 = 1. See how that works? When you are single; you are one. When you’re together, you are one. The both of you with God? Still one. So, be good to yourselves, and each other. It is the way of love and love is the way of God. 1 Corinthians 13:13

-by DeMaster Thomas 12/16/23

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Marriage: the original covenant of God and Us

 

Marriage

theoretical vs practical

Empathy track is the gateway – time to build – draw out – learning time – patience, understanding – fix it track is near the conclusion

John 14:15 – if you love me, obey me

Start complete – finish the session with God at the center. This is church counseling – not clinical psychology. So, pray! (yeah, I remember the instructor was adamant about opening and closing every counseling session with prayer)

Marriage – mind body spirit – our trinity. Our action is first – the word.

Marriage is the first human institution given to us by God

Genesis 2:18-23 (man/woman are equal, their roles in the relationship compliment each other) God ‘married’ (joined together or bound) Adam to Eve (man to woman). It was not created by man. It was created by God. We were created for relationship.

God created marriage for His glory – togetherness, oneness in love is God’s view of His relationship to us. Ephesians 5 -  ¹ Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children ² and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. 

There is a marriage between the church of God and Jesus Christ – (metaphor, yes. Again, to ‘marry’ means to join or bond in union for purpose. It is clear and evident that yes, the join and bond of the redeemed and the Savior in one union for the New World is for the purpose of furthering God’s Kingdom on Earth as well as other reasons laid out before the foundation of the Earth. https://www.gotquestions.org/bride-of-Christ.html - go on)

Hardship to greatness; it is all done in marriage. It is intentional. Extensional; purposeful. Revelation 19:7-10 Let us rejoice and be glad
    and give him glory!
For the wedding of the Lamb has come,
    and his bride has made herself ready.
⁸ Fine linen, bright and clean,
    was given her to wear.”

(Fine linen stands for the righteous acts of God’s holy people.)

⁹ Then the angel said to me, “Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the wedding supper of the Lamb!” And he added, “These are the true words of God.”

¹⁰ At this I fell at his feet to worship him. But he said to me, “Don’t do that! I am a fellow servant with you and with your brothers and sisters who hold to the testimony of Jesus. Worship God! For it is the Spirit of prophecy who bears testimony to Jesus.”

God’s marriage relationship will last – Genesis 2:24 – what He joins, no one can separate (again, referring to the His Church to Christ. Humans get divorced every day. Sad but true. We took a beautiful biblical practice of love and purpose and completely shredded it into little nano pieces of death and destruction. We truly just can’t have nice things) – selfishness can and very clearly shadows this spiritual foundation. Self-serving destroys the ability to serve.

Matthew 19:5 The marriage comes first before your other relationships. God is orderly. (Clean. Simple. Direct. Order of responsibility in the household:

1.       God 2. Man 3. Woman 4. Child. Each sibling in the order of birth by age thereafter and so on. Each accountable to the other and most importantly, accountable to Head of Household – GOD. This is now a power play. This is a clean clear order of roles and responsibility to each other – each according to their strengths. This hierarchy builds a foundation on solid rock that cannot easily be moved. And yes, this, all coming from a man who is never married or had children but I can read and the Bible is clear on this and we ruin it by putting ourselves first before the biblical union and structure put before us by God. Anyway, I’m preaching to the air. (sigh) Go on…)

Parents are the primary unit – children are the impact unit

Marriage is a covenant relationship – sew the definition into your heart. Abuse of ANY kind will damage the covenant. Selfishness has no place in a marriage. Change is constant. Healthy communication is key. It is binding. You are committing yourself to this institution. It is not a contract on paper (the secular world did that, not God). It is a covenant of the heart.

(Covenant definition: formal solid binding agreement between two or more persons with God and each other to honestly and truthfully fulfill promise and keep your word in honor and glory for the betterment of God’s Kingdom and the preservation of our place in it. everything we do in that marriage should be to His glory and His liking and for the greater accomplishment of our journey with the Lord. This is why He is so adamant about keeping the marriage bond clean. Do not soil it with immoral unethical impure violations. It will tear at the walls of the covenant brick by brick until the foundation is so weak, the house falls into quicksand. Just as the Ten Commandments keep that marriage foundation between God and His Church on earth strong and free from cracks, leaks, breaks and crumble, so do they apply the same strengths in a marriage to each other. Yes, there will be daily attacks at the walls and windows or your marriage, the world hates a holy union because it is broken and falling and misery loves company. But what God joins together, let no one put asunder. Mark 10:9 😊

Let's Stay Together: 
5 Simple Steps to Healthy Marriage

Inspired by Kevin Odor of CCRC

"Love and marriage, love and marriage, go together like a horse and carriage..." ah, the hopeful sounds of Frank Sinatra echo the heartbeat of budding lovers everywhere who want to "tie the knot". For some, it's a around the finger and for others it's around the neck. But no matter how you look at it, Old Blue Eyes hit it right on the head! Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongdoing. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

Now that we know the true and accurate definition of love and not what modern society and social media tell us, we know that is it is the goal of the heart to leave our homes and cling to another in hopes that we may be one in love and be fruitful. A man must love his wife as he loves himself and a wife must respect her husband as she respects herself. We have heard this over and over again in every culture around the world. Treat them like you want to be treated...what goes around comes around...be good to them and they will be good to you...and so on.

But what makes a marriage last beyond the infatuation stage, the "honeymoon period"? How do we look back years later and look over at that person and say, from the core of our heart, I love this man or I love this woman...how can we say, for example, 30 years later, we are happily married despite an immoral and broken world that no longer believes or markets healthy marriage, but promotes destruction, selfishness, and lust? Well, it's simpler than you may think.

First: Never give up! Commit to your commitment: There will be many obstacles, challenges, ups and downs throughout the journey together, but as long as there is no irreparable damage caused by abuse or indiscretion, and you truly still fully commit to fulfilling the wants and desires you share with your spouse, remember the vow you took before God and man to stand by your word and do everything you can to keep your promises to each other. Love always perseveres.

Second: Avoid the pit-falls from saying, "we are just too different." It was the similarities that attracted you to each other in the first place and the differences that kept it so interesting and challenging along the way. You are not always going to agree on everything. This is good. At times, one will have a perspective the other does not; the outcome will benefit greatly from the meeting of the minds. You are one heart, but you still have a unique quality and contribution to the marriage. It's like sugar and spice, salt and pepper, hand in glove, you get the point. 

Third: Commit to acceptance. Accept one another for who they are, not for who you want them to be. Change in a person comes with time and experience. If it is positive change, embrace it. If it is negative change, work together to overcome it. This brings fulfillment to the marriage. 

Fourth:  Never say, "you don't make me happy." It is NOT the other person's responsibility to make YOU happy. You are responsible for your own happiness. The fruit for a healthy heart is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. It is up to you to feed your heart healthy influences just as you feed your body healthy food. Both will reflect a healthy mind and spirit. This is your commitment to growing. Do not accuse in anger, but speak truth in love, this will grow up in the marriage and make you stronger. A 3 strand braid is the strongest there is.

Fifth: Do not see other people. Inviting another person into your marriage bed will destroy it. Your bed can't hold the weight of an extra body. Neither can your heart. Filling your eyes with lust will only lead you to step out on your marriage, which goes against rule #1 above. Causing lust and adultery in your marriage will destroy it to the point of no repair. If you apply love abundantly to a healthy marriage, it will flourish and grow. If you sour and spike your marriage with affairs, promiscuity and adulterous behavior, it will rot the marriage from the core and it will wither and die like rotten fruit fallen from the vine. 

Guard Your Heart

 You have heard this time and time again, we must protect our minds, our bodies and most importantly, our hearts from the things in the world that want to kill it. We must make a commitment to guarding, above all else, our hearts, after all, it is source of life. If we look for good in ourselves and each other, we will find it, But if we seek out to purposely hurt each other, we are capable of executing it.  Be a good heart. A heart of change. Love can turn a heart of stone into a heart of peace. As one in marriage, you are a new heart, undivided with a new spirit of love to bond you.

 

Until next time, I am DeMaster Thomas and this -- is Real Living.

Eye Of the Bee Holder

We have touched on this before that lust is the cotton candy of the eye. But just like anything sugary sweet, too much of it will eventually make you sick and could possibly kill you. No, not 6 feet under per say, but physically, emotionally and in the most damaging way, spiritually; it can destroy every moral fiber. That is why I cannot stress to you how important it is that if you still find it hard to look past what you see and dive deep into what you feel, please take the time to regroup, rethink and refresh. Your mind, body and spirit will thank you. Not to mention, those close to you will thank you, like your lover, spouse, friends and associates. As for singles, quality and caliber speaks volumes in your character when your physical desires are reserved for the right time.

It is merely a misconstrued notion that true desire comes from pleasure in the flesh. However, it is true that to please the soul is divine. Love making is an art, not an exploitation. This is by design; on purpose for a purpose. Procreation not recreation. When you enter into a healthy and whole relationship with your partner, the physical becomes temporary and the emotional becomes permanent. Another way to say it; sex is temporary, love making is permanent. One is physical, the other is emotional.


Love making is more than an outward expression of feelings for one another, it is a way of communicating a deeper connection to each other. From this great unity, a miracle can happen. We are fruitful and multiply, creating a special being, through love. Just as man was created in love, so shall we reproduce "in love."

 But choose wisely and heed that you do not enter marriage with unusual doubts, unrealistic ideas or unattainable expectations. These are ingredients for failure. The marriage bed is the only place for the art of love making and should be treated with decency and respect. It is the want of the flesh that perverts and distorts the true nature and beauty of this sacred bond between man and woman. There is nothing wrong with starting over.

For those of you who are already in committed, monogamous relationships, if you are looking to rekindle that spark between you, this is one of many constructive ways to do it. (No pun intended.)  Remember how exciting it was to anticipate being with your lover and friend for the first time? Revisit this. And this goes for new couples as well. Start out traditionally, as nature intended. Don't worry, the exploration and learning or relearning of each other will come later. (Again: no pun intended.)

Traditional love making rekindles a youthful spark that if done right, will feel new again to you and your body. This is where romance, foreplay and infatuation finds its way into the picture as well. It may not be your first time, but it will feel like the first time and in some ways, you fall in love, literally, all over again. If you have struggled with sex addiction, porn addiction, promiscuity, polygamy, self-consciousness, low self-esteem or any other issues that keep you from truly making love, then you may need to work deeper and harder on yourself first and then work on the love making with your partner. And there is help for all of these issues and more, you just have to want it bad enough and change will find you.

Love making can be a joyful, profound experience when mind, body and spirit come together in two people that truly love each other. And when you reach this climax, you will feel a rush of indescribable pleasure that no sex can bring. As the saying goes, use your heart and not your eyes. Know who you are in love and spirit; not just in flesh. And then ask, do I love you or do I lust you and hopefully the heart will reply, I love you.

I'm DeMaster Thomas and this is Real Living

Self-Sex: A "Touchy" Subject

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It's been said, too much of anything can hurt or kill you. This is a fact we cannot ignore. We are only human. Many believe that addictions are not diseases at all. But for those who are ready to accept and acknowledge their own truths, addictions are diseases and yes: there is a cure.

In this section, we are going to focus on masturbation/pornography addiction. Globally, countless hours have been spent writing and researching about this sensitive subject by medical professionals, independent research groups and community interest organizations. And even though their motives may differ, they all reach the same conclusion: The abuse of alcohol, drugs, gambling, and food all take a backseat to the #1 addiction for women, men and children: SEX. Believe it or not, studies show that we are all, in some way or another, so heavily over-exposed to sex, that it has been ranked the #1 addiction. Obviously with no thanks to modern technology, right? Today, we have unlimited access to Internet pornography, sex-ting, and the overflow of sexuality spilling from pop culture through music, television and magazines.  Pornography has been compared by some experts to be the equivalent to cancer. It is a silent killer. You do not realize you are sick until you have lost your relationship or your job as a result of your illness.

And then there is masturbation. What's the connection? Well additional research tells us the #1 reason for watching porn is to masturbate and masturbation by itself is addictive. When the two are brought together, it is a recipe for mental, physical and emotional disaster. In this case, 1+1=zero.

But why? Sex is the most natural part of a man and woman expressing their love for each other. How could this possibly be unhealthy? Before we answer that, consider this. On average, most men and women think about sex several times throughout the day. This is a physiological response to outside stimulation as well as mental stimulation or as some call it - fantasizing. Think of your body as a machine that is programmed to do only what you tell it to do. If you tell your body, it is time to reproduce and procreate, it sends a signal to the brain that triggers chemical responses which result in pleasure and happiness. However, you are not a bunny. You are a thinking being with self-control and you know that you cannot just stop every 30 seconds to 10 minutes to have sex.  So what do we do with all of these thoughts and feelings that's been piling up all day?



The fact of the matter is the human body is undeniably, naturally designed for sexual intercourse between a man and a woman. Contrary to all cultural and popular beliefs, every creative and imaginative method we have come up with to get around this irrefutable fact has failed. As the slogan goes, "you can't beat the real thing."

A. The first choice is the best and most obvious. If you are currently in a healthy monogamous relationship, share and explore those sexual desires with your partner as an expression of passion and love.

B. If you are not able to be with your lover one-on-one for whatever reason, there are other compassionate ways to show just how much you physically desire them. Some examples include enticing poetry, alluring but tasteful pictures, seductive conversation by telephone, creative yet tasteful exhibition by web cam or phone cam, exotic art, crafts, paintings and/or erotic foods prepared by you for them and only them. There is no law religious or scientific that says you can't say "I want and desire you and only you: my love" a hundred-and-one different ways.

"Well that's all fine and dandy, but I'm single!" you say...well I didn't forget about the single people. Here is a myth buster for you - did you know that masturbation and pornography ranks higher among couples than it does with single people? I was surprised, myself. Here is another myth buster that the ladies will not like or admit to. Did you also know that masturbation among women ranks higher than men on average of 3 to 1? Well believe it. Sorry ladies, the secret is out. The female body has a special gift from nature. Repetitive and/or multiple orgasms are rare among males if at all in most cases, but proven to be very common among females. Women have longer reflex response times, quicker recovery periods between climaxes and tend to find greater sexual pleasure from more than one orgasm in one lovemaking session. The male, by design, on purpose, has a shorter reflex response time, longer recovery period between climaxes and tend to be quite pleased if they are able to have at least two orgasms within one lovemaking session. This is all simple biology and truly leans more on science than anything else. While every person is slightly different in personal preference and experience, this is just the way the human body is made.

Now. Enough with science class. What about the "release of my single sexual tension?" 

Marketing machines love the single person. After all, "sex" sells. It's ubiquitous.  But believe it or not, you have the upper hand. (No pun intended)

Here are some Healthy Alternatives to masturbation: 

(Couples, this goes for you as well!)

     

1. Clean/block all the porn from all your personal computers, electronic devices and living spaces. This will start your path to a clean mind which leads to a clean body and ultimately results in a clean heart.
 

2. Set up filters to block it and let someone else choose the password to unblock it. It's like giving someone else the key to your-now empty liquor cabinet.


3. Replace the time you masturbate with something "constructive". Examples include working out or exercising, hobbies, arts, crafts, call a friend or family member, read a book without pictures on any topic other than sex, write in a diary or journal. Now be mindful that you are not simply replacing one addictive behavior with another. It is very easy for addictive personalities to let go of one thing and latch on to another.

4. Think healthy : be healthy. Make the better you a reality by changing your focus and thinking clearly.  There is nothing morally or biologically wrong with you that you have sexual desires. It is totally healthy and natural. How you respond to your body makes the difference between a peaceful and respectful dignity and character and a pervert or a weak willed individual. The mind controls the body-not the other way around. You are in the driver's seat.


5. Be aware of your surroundings and avoid unnecessary and excessive exposure. This needs to be said even if you've heard it before: what you put into your mind and body is what you get out of it. If you fill it with garbage you will put out nothing but garbage. Plain and simple. Filling the body and mind with images and activities that kill, steal and destroy will only result in broken relationships, damaged mental capacity and in some cases, physical illness and sickness. Just like any other addiction, the body breaks down when abused.

6. Change your playground and you change your playmates. No, not those kind of playmates, stay focused. Take an inventory of the kind of people you associate with and take a closer look at who your friends are. Do they promote a strong healthy lifestyle? Do they accentuate who you are? Do they motivate and elevate you in a positive way? If you said no to two or more of these questions? Well "goodnight sweetheart, it's time to go." It may be time to trim the fat and cut those unhealthy, negative, destructive people out of your life.

7. Face the truth! Far too many of us are in denial. We use irrational justification to negatively reinforce our behaviors. Think about it. Do you find yourself saying one of these  phrases before you masturbate to pornography or just close your eyes and imagine?

 ..."I only masturbate to relieve stress after a hard day at work...I don't masturbate that much, maybe once or twice a week if that...what's the big deal-it's my body...I'm not hurting anyone, I'm alone...no one sees me doing it, so why should it matter what I do in the privacy of my own home...I want to learn my body and know everything about it before I'm with my sexual partner...when I masturbate, I'm not thinking of any one person, just feeling good and pleasing myself...I only think of my boyfriend or husband/girlfriend or wife...I never think about my best friend's wife or daughter when I masturbate...what I would do to my coworker if he/she gave me five minutes on the desk right now...I just can't wait anymore-it's been --- days/months/years and I deserve to be sexually happy..."

And the list goes on and on. Of course there are several rebuttals to these mental statements that doctors and pastors would love to say to you while you are relishing in the moment, but you are correct. You are alone. It is your body and the fact is: you masturbate because you can. It is your choice and it is up to you to decide what is healthy for you and what is not.

FACT: Medical/Scientific:

The human body DOES NOT NEED masturbation or pornography. Even today with all of our modern medicine and technological advancement in the study of the human brain and body; no scientist or medical professional has been able to find one credible, reputable accepted: biological, physiological or psychological need for masturbation or pornography. NONE. Instead, only reveals and confirms what it is, what it does, why its done and its adverse effects. No reproductive purpose has been discovered to date.

Men-your sperm is broken down as energy; fuel for the body to use and what is not used is disposed of naturally.
Women-your orgasm, scientifically speaking, has no reproductive function whatsoever: only pleasure, tension release and keeping the "lines" clean-at the appropriate time during intercourse. Trust that your body knows how to take care of itself and maintain a healthier you.
 

FACT: Culture/Society:

There is NO SUCH THING as ''blue balls'' "numb nuts" "dry pie" "bat caves" or any other countless number of verbally horrific ways to describe a person who has not had an orgasm. If you believe you have a legitimate health concern or other orgasmic disorder, please consult a physician, therapist or specialist and get the proper care you need. It is not uncommon for some medical and psychiatric professionals to suggest mutual masturbation for couples or self-stimulation exercises under proper therapeutic care. Treatment plans vary depending on the individual so be sure to tell your doctor if you believe you may have difficulty having an orgasm or if you are not able to orgasm during intercourse.

FACT: Moral/Personal:
Pornography and masturbation do not have limits. Much like any other addiction, there is no boundary to age, sex, creed or personal belief system. Masturbation normally starts in childhood and is continued and/or further explored through puberty and carried into adulthood. Pornography and sexually charged clothing, products, goods and services literally engulf most modern cultures. Your child may be learning the wrong things about sex and about their bodies if they are learning it from fashion, television, music, magazines, motion pictures, Internet and personal devices such as cell phones and web cameras. While it may be perfectly normal for a child to explore and learn how their bodies work and how certain things they do make them feel, it is ultimately the parent(s) or guardian(s) responsibility to properly and appropriately educate the child on sex, sexuality and masturbation. This includes teaching and explaining to them what the difference is between love and lust; physical desire/attraction vs. emotional/mental connection. And although many cultures/societies live by the motto 'it takes a village to raise a child' , it is not society's responsibility, it is not the public school system's responsibility, it is not the church priest or the Sunday school teacher's responsibility to raise and rear your children. It is your responsibility. Teach them well and understand that what you do to your own body will effect them in one way or another. Some say the best way to remember this rule of thumb is simply to say to yourself, if it's not healthy for my kids, it's not healthy for me.

:COUPLES:

You must be open, honest, and supportive of your partner's sexuality. True love and happiness in the bedroom is enriched when you take the time to learn the other person's body and sexual behaviors.  Do not be afraid to share and explore your deepest fantasies and bring them to life. The union between a man and woman is considered to be extra special just because of that fact alone. You can live out those daily desires with the second most important person in your life. Enjoy it.

 :SINGLES:

Be involved. Stay involved. When you have reached maturity, moved out of the home or reached an age at which you must venture for yourself, know that you have so much ahead of you to learn and embrace along the way. You are stronger than your weakest moments in life and quite frankly, you are never alone. There are plenty of other single people out there who are looking for the same experiences in life that you are. So instead of losing hours of your life you will never get back to porn or masturbating-go "get the real thing!" No I did not say the kind you 'pay for' or your 'friend with benefits' either. The real thing is so much more and is far more fulfilling. Why 'run' to get one thing when you can 'walk' and get it all? Take your time. Love will find you in more ways than one.

In closing, remember that you have the tools, the insight, the wisdom, and the faith to make a healthy choices with your mind and body. This site is filled with many suggestions for personal and professional growth. For more information on this subject and other related interests go to:
webmd.com
pornaddiction.com
recoveryconnection.org

Until next time, I am DeMaster Thomas and this-is Real Living.