Showing posts with label women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label women. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Girlfriend, you Are beautiful! Be You! Change the World.




3000 Years Of Beauty Standards In 3 Minutes


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Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder, but our idea of beauty over the past few decades has most definitely been programmed into us. Our youth are growing up with mass amounts of marketing around them, as they watch television and participate in life, they are constantly bombarded with a picture of “what is beautiful.” It’s a shame how our children grow up striving to achieve that particular look, and how they can be made to feel “ugly” if they do not fit the accepted model of what our corporations have defined as beautiful. As a result, our youth are not addressing their feelings and emotions, always being taught to look outside of themselves instead of within themselves for the answer.
“If tomorrow, women woke up and decided they really liked their bodies, just think about how many industries would go out of business.” – Unknown
It’s quite ridiculous when you think about it, because the programmed idea of beauty isn’t even real. What we see all around us everyday through mass marketing campaigns are often fake photoshopped  images and looks that are not even realistically obtainable. It would serve all of us well if we could accept and let go of our perceptions that have been programmed into us of what we think real beauty is. Don’t get me wrong, I do believe this is happening, but we still have a long way to go. It’s not easy to re-wire your brain when it has been bombarded with the idea of “what is” since childhood.
“When you start to look at people’s heart instead of their face or body, life becomes clear.” – Unknown
That being said, the idea of what a woman should look like has usually come from a place of authority. Women, and women’s rights in general have been suppressed, and in some cultures, for thousands of years. Throughout history there are many instances where they have not been viewed or treated in the way that they should be. There is no man, there is no woman, there is only human and we are all the same. Both genders have been subjected to programming for a long time, and both have been told what their role is by authority figures.
For a long time, the world and/or authority figures have had a desire to control women’s bodies, and women in general -not to mention their behaviours and identities. The world is changing rapidly, and this is one aspect of many that is also changing as we move through 2015.
“This control is such a deep part of our culture that we hardly ever realize how cruel it is and how it restricts our personal choice.  I don’t believe it’s enough to discuss exclusively the issues that affect a specific group of women. We also need to talk about racism, homophobia, transphobia, classicism, xenophobia and ableism. The fight for equality and respect is very wide and should be inclusive.” - Carol Rossetti

In the video, a cast of models came together to portray what the different ideal body types have been throughout various historical periods. We all might have an idea about how they dressed, but the ideal body types have probably not occurred to many of us. Although some might find this video inappropriate, they chose to wear what they wore to help emphasize the difference between their bodies and to help viewers forget about other things like jewellery and clothing.
The video shows how the interpretation of female beauty with regards to body type has changed over time, but it seems the next period of “what is beautiful” is going to be about looking within, observing the heart and more qualities that resonate with the soul. This, I have no doubt, will become the new “definition” of what is beautiful as we move away from the material, into the immaterial. The post “shift in consciousness” idea of beauty is going to be the real one, something that is necessary (out of many other things) if we are to change our world and the direction we are heading.
I chose to share the video because it will definitely get you thinking about something that’s probably not thought about often. It will definitely have you asking some questions to yourself, at least it did for me.
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Sunday, November 20, 2011

Mid Life: Crisis or Crossroad?


So you've reached mid-life...

Relax, don't panic and slowly step away from the dealership...the secretary...the pool boy...and the 'mirror, mirror on the wall'! It's going to be okay. Breathe. There you go. Now. Let's face it. It's midlife, most of us do not look forward to this day. We dread wearing black and cringe at jokes and wise cracks like Lordy, Lordy look who's 40! And god forbid someone gives you yet another card or balloon that says, "Over the Hill!" Who invented those anyway? Probably someone in their late 20's or early 30's.

Nonetheless, one thing is for certain, if you have reached your idea of what you consider to be your mid-life, remember that along the way, you have gained insight and wisdom and you have learned to perceive things differently. You have come to see things are not always as they seemed through the young and ambitious rose-colored glasses. You have come to learn and appreciate the old saying, "money can't buy you love" and of course, like most, you have come to find that "chasing the dollar bill" and "climbing the corporate ladder" only leads to two things: arthritis and migraines!

And then there are matters of the heart. If you are like most, you have been around the block a time or two when it comes to love and relationships. You have experienced the good and bad of healthy and unhealthy relationships, you have discovered what it means to love someone and you have learned to love yourself and others as God loves you...right? Okay, so maybe we don't always get that one completely right. But that's okay. It's all part of the journey.



Because you see, there is truth in the old saying, age before beauty. Things that were considered priority to you at 20, are not as important at 30. And things that were important to you at 30, don't seem to matter as much at 40. This is because as we get older, our tastes, likes and dislikes, even our habits, tend to change. This is a good thing. So you may or may not be the strongest guy at the gym or the hottest girl at the club, but you are the most distinguished gentleman among your peers and the most accomplished woman in your field.

Mid-life is not a crisis-it is a crossroad. It's all in how you look at it. Stop. Do the inventory on your life. Did you achieve the career and love goals you set out to attain? Did you make a string of decisions that led you astray? Were you on the right track and got detoured somewhere along the way? No matter how you got here, you're here! Welcome to today: the first day of the rest of your life. And it is a good place to be, because now you have the wonderful opportunity to apply a very simple but effective principle: concentrate on the present and use the past as a guide for future.

Today, you can choose to make healthier decisions for yourself and your family. If you've been meaning to start exercising and eating right, rebuilding or repairing a broken bond with your spouse, children, family or friends then guess what! You can! It starts with you and it starts today. The Corvette is not going to love you back. The secretary will disappear when the money does and the pool boy is tweeting that he bagged a cougar or a sugar mama literally within minutes on Facebook and Twitter.

If you've been meaning to start that new hobby, take that new class or that much needed vacation, now is the time.

There are several sites with activities, advice and information available online for mid-life crossroad travelers. Now there is something that you can take with you down the road of the second half of your life: that spark that burned inside of you to finish college, raise a family or run your own business, it's still there, waiting for you. All of the things on your list that you haven't done yet, with realistic approach, revisit them and when able, take the appropriate steps to experience them. This could be any of the things mentioned here or other things like write a book, start a website or take up a new interest like teaching or community volunteering. The applications of your accomplishments and knowledge cover such a wide variety of areas.

Many believe that once at the mid-life mark, they lose their ability to make a difference in the life of others and for themselves. Nothing is further from the truth. Maybe you didn't have children, there is adoption, foster parent programs and mentor programs. Maybe you didn't finish school, there are night classes, online courses and tailored education programs that fit just about any budget and assessment level. Maybe you never had a faith base or believed in yourself, there are several churches, organizations and non-denominational groups available that can help you to find the best path for your spiritual journey.

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Lastly, remember that you matter. You matter to others in more ways than you may imagine and you touch more people thank you think. You are at that fantastic point in life that rewards you with fulfillment of your purpose in life. You do have a purpose; you do have goals; you do have a reason. It is not about reliving the first half of your life all over again, it is not about giving up on the people and things in your life that truly matter and it's definitely not about giving up on the 2nd half of your life and doing nothing at all.


It is now, that you take your experience and turn it from success into significance. Everything you've been through up to this point, in some way or another, can be a lesson and blessing to someone else coming up behind you. Be ready to pass on your knowledge, love and passions to the ones who follow. Sometimes, your pothole is their speed bump; your failure is their success. Sometimes, you can help prevent or help someone else get through a similar situation in their life. Your mid life crossroad was the cure to their 1st half of life crisis. See how that works? 

By being a lesson and blessing to others, you will find new purpose, new fulfillment, new reason, new hope, new light: new faith in the foundation of your beliefs, new love in hearts of the ones closest to you and most importantly, yourself.

Until next time, I am De Thomas and this - is Real Living.