Lust vs. Love

And the winner is...

As if you had to ask.  Look.  Our society and progressive sexual revolution have led us astray.  We have only one body - one mind - and one "heart."  To believe that overindulgence in carnal pleasures is healthy is a complete scam to rope you into buying pointless products that do more damage than good.  And to lure you into doing irreparable damage to yourself physically, mentally and emotionally.  It starts in the home.  That's right. Sounds old fashioned, but proper care of the body and mind starts with the parent and child relationship.  What you learn as a child, you take with you into adulthood.  What you teach or fail to teach your children they will learn somewhere else and then it may be too late.  Never lie to a child.  About anything.  Including fully educating your child on the proper use of their bodies.  After all, it is "procreation" not "recreation" and while it may feel great for the moment, every time you lay down with someone you give a small part of yourself away that you will never get back.

So ask yourself.  It is worth it?  Is the price of lust worth the value of love?  Obviously there can be no wager on something that is priceless.  We all live with temptation.  We are all born with natural desires, wants, and needs to be desired in return.  Sex is a beautiful and fantastic expression of love between two people who are committed to each other on every level.  Did you catch that? Sex is an expression of Love.  When it is equally shared between two people who are committed to each other.  Ask yourself. What better way to show how I feel about someone than to give myself completely to them?  But there must be an all 4 points bond or it is only sex-not making love.  The outcomes are irreversible and so is the passion or pain depending on which role you play.  Learn what is natural and maturely seek to share your love with someone.  You will find that true love and happiness in a relationship requires no special effects to be magical and spectacular.  Take your time with love and be mindful of how you treat your body.  Indeed you will get out of it what you put into it so if it is a landfill you are planning then so shall it be trash that you put in it.  If it is warmth, compassion, ecstasy, and the embrace of your deepest connection with this person, then unleash the beast and go for it.

Indeed the body is amazing, attractive and exciting.  But the mind is strong, wise and careful.  Let your mind be the guide of your body-not the other way around.  If it is not appropriate for children, it is not appropriate for adults.  Adults, lead by example and know that those who follow are watching.  If you are careless and destructive with your sexuality and make hurtful decisions with negative outcomes, then there is a greater chance the child to follow will make the same choices.  So choose wisely in your quest to find a life partner.  If you are not ready for love then you are not ready for sex.  Plain and simple.  If you are not completely and totally ready to bring a life into this world in a two parent household that is stable and prepared to raise a child, then you are not ready for sex.  If you believe that lust is love - then you are definitely not ready for sex.  There is this great illusion we have fooled ourselves into believing; that it is okay because we can always use protection.  Again I say to you, if you have to invite any type of external devices into your bed with your life partner, including contraception, then you are not ready for making love.  Sex between two people with any type of foreign object is not love.  Because love knows no boundary and knows no border.  So if you think you are doing yourself a favor by strapping up or plugging up-think again.  You are purposely manipulating the design of intercourse to become strictly recreation and taking away its original purpose: to bring a life made out of love into this world.

And there you have it. K.O. knockout, first round. Love wins with one hit to the heart and lust loses with all its empty body blows to the senses.  Be wise in your step and let your mind be the guide for the body.

-DeMaster A. Thomas